Parenting Guide

  • Aggression in Children Some aggression in young children is normal!  Children seek control and aggression is one way to get it.  Aggression is common in two to four year-olds and when children have siblings.  Culturally, parents in the United States tolerate more aggression than parents in some countries.  However, when children do not learn self-control by age five ...
  • Challenging Behavior in Preschool Children Challenging Behavior in Preschool Children can be reduced by: Being affectionate and accepting; let your children know that you love them even though you may not like their misbehavior. Having rules about safety; children behave better when they know that you will keep them safe. Making sure that children go to bed about the same time every night ...
  • Connecticut State Department of Education Benchmarks 2 ½ to 6 year old children Personal and Social Benchmarks Shows self-direction with range of materials Sustains attention to task Participates in teacher-led group activities Manages transitions, follows routines and rules Uses words to express emotions and feelings Shows empathy and caring for others Interacts cooperatively with peers Works to resolve conflicts Recognizes similarities and appreciates differences Physical Benchmarks Uses coordinated large-muscle movements Uses coordinated small-muscle movements Cares for self independently Cognitive Benchmarks Engages in scientific ...
  • Helping Children Deal with Change When change occurs in the family setting, it is important to keep what you can the same. Keeping the schedule and routine the same will help maintain stability and reduce stress for parents and children alike. Much of the time, the attitude of the adults determines the response of the children. It is important to ...
  • Home/School Connection – Making the Most of Reading Experiences with Your Children Young Preschoolers (3 to 4 years olds): Select some non-fiction information books with “real” pictures (photographs rather than illustrations). Books about butterflies, sharks, dolphins, and horseshow crabs delight children, especially after visiting the seashore, zoo, or aquarium. Books about parts of the country, work machines, buildings, and trains teach children about a sense of community, how ...
  • Infants and Toddlers: Appropriate Developmental Milestones Compiled by Wendy S. Scoppa Areas of development: Physical – body Cognitive – thinking, intellect, language, communication Social – gets along with others and the world around them Emotional – feelings (yours and others) Infants: 0 to 12 months Toddlers: 1 to 3 years Infant Development 1.) Physical – Motor Development Milestones Gross Motor Development (the use of the large muscles, such as legs and ...
  • Keeping Children Safe: Emotionally, Socially, and Physically Children Learn Better When They Feel Safe Information compiled by Linda N. Stuhlman, Early Education and Care Consultant for Parent Workshop All humans have a basic need to feel safe and secure. It is the role of adults, particularly parents and teachers, to teach children about safety. Preschoolers are not developmentally ready to be responsible for their own safety and need adult guidance. ...
  • Kids and Eating – Frequently Asked Questions Compiled by Linda N. Stuhlman for Best Beginnings workshops How much does a preschooler (ages 3-5) need to eat per day? Juice: no more than 6 oz. per day, Fruits: 2 or 3 per day (1 cup) Vegetables: 2 or 3 per day (1 cup), Milk or milk products: 2 to 3 cups per day Meat, poultry, fish: 4 ...
  • Kids and Sleep Information compiled by Linda N. Stuhlman for Best Beginnings workshops. What should a parent know about children and sleep? Children need a good night’s sleep to grow, physically and mentally. Sleepy kids get hurt and sick more. Also their behavior is affected! Research is showing that sleep and obesity are related. So are ADHD and sleep. Being tired is stressful, ...
  • Preventing Problem Behavior in Young Children and Dealing with it When It Does Happen The most important way to teach appropriate behavior is by example; children learn what they live.  Children learn resourcefulness by learning to have self help skills, making appropriate decisions, and unstructured play.  Children learn respect when they are taught manners and kindness.  Children learn responsibility when they are moved along through developmental tasks and adults ...
  • Responding to Children Who Are Sensitive Information compiled by Linda N. Stuhlman for Best Beginnings workshops. All children exhibit sensitive type behavior when tired, hungry, sick, or stressed. Some characteristics are hereditary like turning red with embarrassment or crying easily. Some characteristics are actually given to children because of assumptions by parents or care givers! Children learn what they live: they emulate what they ...
  • Sibling Relationships and Family Rules – Helping Everyone Get Along Information compiled by Linda N. Stuhlman, Early Education and Care Consultant for Parent Workshop It is the role of parents to teach children how to get along by establishing rules about behavior and by encouraging children to be responsible within their families. Although infants, toddlers, and preschoolers are not developmentally ready to be responsible for their ...
  • Speech & Motor (fine/gross) Development Ideas to help your child improve his or her speech Compiled by Sarah Moon, MS, CCC, SLP Try clapping, tapping, humming, drumming, kazooing or mooing out the syllables in common multi-syllable words (tel-e-phone, el-e-phant, ra-di-o, re-fridg-er-a-tor). Encourage slow rate of speech by using it yourself and having “Turtle Talk Time” when you use “slow talking” just like a ...
  • Teaching Your Child to Listen Discipline is an attitude not a technique, it is about how you do things not the consequences of what you do when your child does wrong. It is commanding, not demanding. Children do well at home and in school when they have self control and are able to listen and follow directions. Communication is the primary ...
  • The Importance of Outside Time with Children The Importance of Outside Time with Children Clinton Land Conservation Trust - P.O. Box 121 Clinton, CT 06413 Information compiled by Dana Skidmore Best Beginnings in conjunction with the Clinton Land Conservation Trust (CLCT) encourages families to “get out and hike”. Doctors, psychologists and child advocates agree: Getting your kids back in touch with the great outdoors can improve ...
  • Toddlers, Terrible and Terrific! The two years between 12 and 36 months of a child’s life are a time for developing autonomy and independence.  Babies, who bond and attach, develop trust.  Preschoolers develop initiative.  It is normal for toddlers to say no, run away from parents, get into everything, and have screaming tantrums when frustrated.  In the process of ...